Everyone of us could use a good “strip session” every now and then. A session where we take it all off…the make-up, the fancy clothes, the shiny things and bare all. Then you’ve got to go deeper. Strip off any hurt feelings, misunderstandings, anger, frustration, guilt, mistreatment, and disappointment, that you’ve layered yourself with. Acknowledge it. Take it off. Throw it out.
So many of us unintentionally cover ourselves with ill emotions. We keep piling on the layers until we’re so weighed down that we can barely hold our heads up…literally. We try so hard to cover up our hurts with behaviors that we think are sending the signals that we’re “ok”, when in all actuality they’re screaming “help me take this s!@% off”. So do it. There’s no better time than the present, to get naked…emotionally, spiritually, physically, etc… Take a good look at what’s left when you uncover all your insecurities. Now it’s time to do the work of redressing yourself. Only put on what makes you feel good, what makes you proud, what motivates and inspires you to do/live/be better. Goodluck! 🙂
When you look in the mirror…who are you looking at? Who’s making up your face? Are you proud of her, ashamed of her, inspired by her, disgusted by her? Who are you REALLY setting your eyes on? When you look yourSELF in the face, that is exactly what you should be looking at and paying attention to…your-SELF. I’m not talking about your eyes, your skin-tone, your hair, your weight, or any physical attribute…I’m talking about your true self. Look at what you’ve achieved, what you’ve overcome, what you’ve had to fight for to get to that chick you have your eyes glued to in the mirror. Look at the things about you that make you unique from any other woman. Look at your blessings, look at your goals, look at you. Don’t focus on your imperfections…we’re all flawed in some way, so that doesn’t make you special.
What makes you special is that you are able to see through your own flaws, physical or otherwise, and know that there is still something about you that deserves to be blessed in life. Nobody in this world has to believe in you, love you, value you, or trust you more than you need to do all those things for yourself. You can’t get down on yourself because of someone else’s actions or words. Can you see those people when you look in the mirror? Or do you only see yourSELF? Are the ones who hurt you, taunted you, disrespected you, or did you any harm standing in the mirror with you? Didn’t think so. So the next time you look in the mirror ask yourself, “What are you looking at?” p.s.– it’s ok to answer yourself too in this situation 🙂
One thing we all have to realize when it comes to living our lives is that, sometimes the sky is going to fall on us; the ground is going to drop from beneath us and we will have to experience our worlds being turned upside down and inside out at several points in our lives. The next thing we must realize and always remember is…it’s ok. To make any type of progression in life some things are going to have to shift from time to time, whether you plan and prepare for them to or not, whether you’re ready for them to or not. Sometimes life just takes it upon it’s own powerful self to make the necessary adjustments for you, and sometimes the very situations and changes that we think are some sort of punishment or curse…actually turn out to be the blessings that we need in order to move forward.
The problems we encounter as we move through life are not actually the important part of who we are or who we may later become. The important part is how we carry ourselves through our trials, personal storms, and everyday dilemmas; how we hold on to ourselves as men and women when we are being beaten down and “tried” by our troubles. Your attitude is critical to overcoming. You must show up for your storm wearing the face of grace, strength, survival, and the faith that your hard times are not where you intend to dwell. You must believe that you are just passing through to pick up a few things…some wisdom, some courage, some strength, some motivation. Be arrogant enough to say that this sad pathetic place you’re in, isn’t good enough for you.
Nothing that happens to us in life is put in place to curse us. Unwelcome events, people, and situations are put before us to make us work to become better versions of ourselves, and to teach us to be doers as well as just thinkers. There is always a way “over”…but what we have to remember is that most of the time we can’t get there without first going “through”. Read this again…process it…and come back to it anytime you feel like the sky is falling.
Life is what we visualize it to be, what we think it is, and what we say it is. If we believe that we are unlovable/unworthy/lazy/unproductive/fat/ugly/ignorant/angry…then so it is.
If we believe that we will never have the kind of life that we dream of, then it will never come to pass. What you get out of life is what you believe you can achieve, what you think you are worthy o, and of course what you work hard for and have have faith in. Experiences come and go…as do opportunities, people, and situations…but your thoughts and beliefs are always with you. That means you need to choose your thoughts the same way you choose what to wear, or what to say. You have to decide what kinds of thoughts and beliefs you want to attach to yourSELF. If you attach thoughts of being a failure to yourself, you will never be a success. If you attach the thought that everyone in life is against you, you can never attract healthy friendships and relationships. Do you get where I’m going with this?
Learn to believe in the things, people, and the lifestyle that you want to attract. Trust yourSELF to create and be your most amazing self. The power of positivity will work itself all through areas of your life. Here are some examples of affirmations to say to yourself to begin replacing some of the negative beliefs that we all sometimes have. 🙂
If You Believe/ Your Affirmation Should Be
nothing works for me/ my life is blessed and my decisions are always right for me
I can’t focus on anything/ My inner vision is clear and unclouded
I am a failure/ my life is a success
I have no right to feel this way/ All of my emotions are valuable
I don’t know what to do/ I trust a higher power and my inner wisdom to guide me
Oprah has announced the second pick for Oprah’s Book Club 2.0. She’s chosen Ayana Mathis’ first novel The Twelve Tribes Of Hattie. “Not since Toni Morrison have I read a writer whose words have moved me this way,” says Oprah.
The first pick was Wild by author Cheryl Strayed.
The next time you and your son are in the great “I don’t need school because I wanna be a rap star” debate…please make them aware that their favorite rapper probably has a college degree or at least been to college. Here is a list of some of hip-hop’s hottest artists and their education acheivements. 🙂
J.Cole: Graduated with honors from St. John’s University in New York City with a major in communications.
Ludacris: Graduated from Georgia State University with a major in music management.
Chuck D (Public Enemy): Graduated from Adelphi University with a degree in graphic design.
Two Chainz: Attended Alabama State University and played for their basketball team for one year. Transferred to Virginia State for his sophomore year. Not clear whether he graduated from Va. State, but rumor has him graduating from college with a 4.0 average. Whether this is truth or urban legend is hard to determine, but if there must be rumors, this is a good one.
Lil Wayne: Attended University of Houston, where he studied psychology. Currently takes classes online at the University of Phoenix.
Kanye West: Of course the creator of the albums “The College Dropout” “Late Registration” and “Graduation” went to college! He attended Chicago State University (where his mother was Chair of the English Department) and Columbia College in Chicago.
Sean Combs: Attended Howard University.
Could it be that the Queen has been dethroned as the richest black woman in the world? According to The Huffington Post, talk-show Queen Oprah Winfrey no longer holds the title as the world’s richest Black woman… there’s a new sheriff in town. The new leading lady is oil baroness Nigerian born, Folorunsho Alakija.
Although drilling oil has reportedly been the 61-year-old’s big money maker — Alakija started her ascent to financial supremacy in fashion.
Alakija was born into a wealthy family, but went on to study fashion design in England in the ’80s and soon after founded the Nigerian clothing label Supreme Stitches. Her one-of-a-kind creations quickly made her the premier fashion designer in the West African country, with her outfitting the who’s who of African Society. She has been called one of the “pioneers of Nigerian fashion” and stays connected to the industry through the Fashion Designers Association of Nigeria (FDAN).
The billionaire businesswoman and philanthropist made the switch to oil in 1993 as the owner of FAMFA Oil Limited and is said to now have an estimated net worth of at least $3.2 billion. With those numbers Alakija is said to have out-earned Ms. Winfrey by approximately $500 million.
Ventures Africa reports that Alakija owns at least $100 million in real estate and a $46 million private jet. However, Oprah still holds the title as the world’s richest self-made woman. 🙂