When The Sky Falls…


One thing we all have to realize when it comes to living our lives is that, sometimes the sky is going to fall on us; the ground is going to drop from beneath us and we will have to experience our worlds being turned upside down and inside out at several points in our lives. The next thing we must realize and always remember is…it’s ok. To make any type of progression in life some things are going to have to shift from time to time, whether you plan and prepare for them to or not, whether you’re ready for them to or not. Sometimes life just takes it upon it’s own powerful self to make the necessary adjustments for you, and sometimes the very situations and changes that we think are some sort of punishment or curse…actually turn out to be the blessings that we need in order to move forward.

The problems we encounter as we move through life are not actually the important part of who we are or who we may later become. The important part is how we carry ourselves through our trials, personal storms, and everyday dilemmas; how we hold on to ourselves as men and women when we are being beaten down and “tried” by our troubles. Your attitude is critical to overcoming. You must show up for your storm wearing the face of grace, strength, survival, and the faith that your hard times are not where you intend to dwell. You must believe that you are just passing through to pick up a few things…some wisdom, some courage, some strength, some motivation. Be arrogant enough to say that this sad pathetic place you’re in, isn’t good enough for you.

Nothing that happens to us in life is put in place to curse us. Unwelcome events, people, and situations are put before us to make us work to become better versions of ourselves, and to teach us to be doers as well as just thinkers. There is always a way “over”…but what we have to remember is that most of the time we can’t get there without first going “through”.  Read this again…process it…and come back to it anytime you feel like the sky is falling.



The Transformation


I don’t know where all of you are in your lives right now, but I’m ready to share with you where I am…and just maybe some of you or even just one of you will be in this same place at this same moment on this same journey. Maybe as I maneuver my own way through this thing I’ll call “the transformation”, it will help you on your way as well. Whatever the case…I’m inviting you on this ride. 🙂

I’m standing in the middle of my life…a little lost, but with a crystal clear destination. I’m moving forward…towards personal empowerment, financial independence, emotional growth, physical well-being, and peace. I’m giving up the idea that it’s too late to become the person I should’ve been working towards becoming 10 years ago. I can’t get back those years…but I can find wisdom and all sorts of useful lessons in them. I’m ready to “do the work” I need to do in my life to feel fulfilled…that includes leaving my baggage holding all my failures…behind. I’m no longer going to use my same old excuses of being too lazy, not focused, not ready, and not having time to do the things I know I need to do, in order to get to where I’m trying to go.

I am dedicating all my energy to becoming the most amazing SELF I can possibly be.

I know there will be obstacles, peaks and valleys…and people who will not believe in me. And that’s ok. I’m not on this journey for anyone but me. 🙂

Take Care!

This is the week! The week to start taking care of YOU! Make this the last day you don’t get enough sleep, don’t drink enough water, eat all the wrong things, not get any exercise, and let any minor derailment of  your everyday routine send you into a stressed out blood pressure raising frenzy. This week it’s all about taking care of your mind, body, and spirit. We spend sooo much time focused on taking care of everything and everyone around else, now it’s time to take care of US ladies!

Losing weight, eating right, and working out is not about being skinny. If you’re happy with the skin you’re in…more power to you…the main objective besides looking and feeling great should be the health benefits. There are way too many 20, 30, and 40 year olds walking around out of shape,  suffering, and even dying from illness and diseases that can easily be prevented or well controlled just by making a few lifestyle changes. There is no reason for us young women to be walking around with uncontrolled diabetes, heart disease, and hypertension…especially when you have small children to raise.

Granted…most of us Black women didn’t grow up in health conscious environments and our eating and exercise habits have been with us our entire lives…it’s time to break the cycle. It’s time that we set better examples for our growing children so that are not plagued with the type of ill health that we all seem to be facing earlier and earlier in life.  So start right now! Make a plan and some health goals to work towards…and get the kids involved. Take them from in front of the television and video games and get them out in the fresh air for a family walk, shoot some hoops, kick a ball around…anything to get them and YOU moving. Try to make better decisions when it comes to what you put into your body and your children’s bodies…more fresh, organic, clean fruits and veggies…less sugar, salt, junk, and processed meats. I’m taking this journey with you so I’m wishing US goodluck and better health! Feel free to share any changes you plan to make, any ideas, or any comments at all.

It’s time to take control of our health.– Monique 🙂

Tips To “Pull Yourself Together”


Life can be overwhelming sometimes. Kids, jobs, bills, relationships, etc…Sometimes it can feel like there is no end to our problems in sight. With so much going on in our everyday lives it can be easy to forget that we MUST take care of ourselves before we can take care of business. If you’re not eating right, sleeping well, and are abusing your body with unnecessary stress and not taking time-outs to recharge and regroup it’s hard to face the stressors of everyday life. If you’re stressed out and feeling like you are at the end of your frayed little rope…here are some tips to help you try to pull it all back together. 🙂

  • Take A Break– a vacation someplace with beautiful turquoise water would be nice but if that’s not quite an option, just take a break ALONE. Send the kids with a good friend or family member for a day or two; schedule a few days off from work and just take some time to be alone doing things for YOU and YOU ONLY! If none of those are options for you at the moment then just carve out an hour or so after work or before work to just take a walk and be by yourself to clear your head.
  • De-Clutter– De-clutter your home, your personal life and most importantly your mind. Get rid of everything/everybody that isn’t conducive to you living a better, happier life. Do away with things and people who serve no purpose in your life. It’s a freeing feeling!
  • Start Taking Care Of Your Body There’s plenty truth to the saying that the better you look, the better you feel! Start making an effort to take care of yourself. Get out and get some fresh air everyday; stop putting unhealthy things into your body; get some regular stress-relieving exercise; stay on top of your personal maintenance and hygiene no matter how you’re feeling–being fresh and clean will ALWAYS lift your mood!

These are just a few things that may help get you out of a funk…hope it was helpful! 🙂