When The Sky Falls…


One thing we all have to realize when it comes to living our lives is that, sometimes the sky is going to fall on us; the ground is going to drop from beneath us and we will have to experience our worlds being turned upside down and inside out at several points in our lives. The next thing we must realize and always remember is…it’s ok. To make any type of progression in life some things are going to have to shift from time to time, whether you plan and prepare for them to or not, whether you’re ready for them to or not. Sometimes life just takes it upon it’s own powerful self to make the necessary adjustments for you, and sometimes the very situations and changes that we think are some sort of punishment or curse…actually turn out to be the blessings that we need in order to move forward.

The problems we encounter as we move through life are not actually the important part of who we are or who we may later become. The important part is how we carry ourselves through our trials, personal storms, and everyday dilemmas; how we hold on to ourselves as men and women when we are being beaten down and “tried” by our troubles. Your attitude is critical to overcoming. You must show up for your storm wearing the face of grace, strength, survival, and the faith that your hard times are not where you intend to dwell. You must believe that you are just passing through to pick up a few things…some wisdom, some courage, some strength, some motivation. Be arrogant enough to say that this sad pathetic place you’re in, isn’t good enough for you.

Nothing that happens to us in life is put in place to curse us. Unwelcome events, people, and situations are put before us to make us work to become better versions of ourselves, and to teach us to be doers as well as just thinkers. There is always a way “over”…but what we have to remember is that most of the time we can’t get there without first going “through”.  Read this again…process it…and come back to it anytime you feel like the sky is falling.



M-powering Moments: Veronica G. (Part VII)

Well see God already had a plan. He knew where we were going to end up & how it would be. We were suppose to be right where we were. This is why the instruction was to pack one bag & leave!!! When we left that family members house we step out on faith & we did take one bag, we both carried a backpack with as much as we could put in it ( that wasn’t very much a couple of outfits & personal hygiene products) Let me share this we were homeless a little under a year in Baltimore City,,,,,, When I say this path in my life was the most peaceful time of my life it is an understatement. Because we were so at peace with where we were and so happy. We never wanted for ANYTHING!!!!! In fact from the little we had we would give away to other homeless people who were in need. If I have 2 I’ll give you 1. This was my thing and the most important value my mom installed in me as a child was “If you see someone in need & you can help them do it, if you have a sandwich and they are hungry give them half,,,,,,Don’t worry baby God will bless you for having a kind heart. Listen to what I’m saying when we did have a need for something food , more clothes, undergarments, winter coats, winter clothes, socks, toothpaste, tooth-brush,,,,,,from our biggest need to the smallest God had already prepare a way and put someone in place to meet our needs!!!! We were like the birds of the air,,,,,,if God would supply all of their needs why wouldn’t he supply ours. See I don’t think y’all fully understand we were homeless with no money nothing but a backpack & clothes on our back and our cup was running OVER!!!!! We had received so much we had to give it away and the more we gave the more we received. This might not mean much to some but we went from backpacks to rolling luggage because we couldn’t carry all that God had given us. So every morning we’d leave the shelter We would go back to Health Care for the Homeless daily to continue our counseling, therapy & addiction classes. After classes we’d checkout the list of resources that we were given for help with housing, clothes so forth & so on. Checked out most of the places on the list, then we put together our own list of the best places to go to for help also who they were interested in helping ( men, women, women & children, seniors or all ) In the evening when we returned to the shelter we would share this information with the other people who were there,,,,,,we became a family same people would return every evening. On the weekends Ryan & I would go to church morning & evening service we’d be done just with enough time to get back to the shelter for a bed & dinner. At dinner we’d sit at our table have prayer read & have conversation on different verses of the bible every evening. After awhile we noticed more and more people were sitting at our table they wanted what we had,,,,,,some had never even picked up a bible before,,,,,,,some didn’t know God. Like everything else we had we were more than happy to share our God and give some of him away. We then started asking the church for Bibles I think we collected 8 to 10 bibles we gave them to some.of the people at the shelter and we started a Bible study at the Shelter. Several people who didn’t know God accept Jesus Christ as their Saviour right there at that very table. God had placed us their for a purpose. With the information we put together several people had gotten the help they need many of them got a place of their own before we did & we were happy we could help them,,,,,,but were sad to see them leave some we never saw again!!! Well we finished our program at Health Care for the Homeless,,,,,and eventually the Shelter closed when the weather started to break (winter was over) In the meantime while living at the Shelter we’d found some of Ryan’s relatives so when the Shelters closed they let us come stay with them temporarily for about 3 or 4 months. But always when one door would close another one would open,,,,,,our life was like chapters in a book. (to be continued almost done sharing)

Morning Mo-tivation

Don’t EVER let anyone tell you that you’re not good enough, not smart enough, not pretty enough, not thin enough. Don’t EVER let anyone make you feel less than the woman you are…not ANYONE…that includes YOU! Have a fantastic M-powering day! —Monique 🙂

What Kind Of Example Are You Setting?

We’ve all heard it…or said it before. Do as I say,  not as I do…but let’s be real here. Our children, no matter what age they are, are just like little sponges. They absorb everything we do, everything we say, and how we communicate. They also can sometimes be like little mirrors by emulating our habits (good and bad), communicating the same way we do (or don’t), expressing themselves the same as we do (or don’t) and we have to pay attention to what’s looking back at us through our children because it is a direct result of what they see when they’re looking at us.

We have to be aware of what we allow our children to see us do and the kind of message we send when we punish or scold them for repeating the behaviors they’ve been a witness to. We can sit them down and talk until we or they are blue in the face about drugs, drinking, sex, education, and so on. But, if we’re not “walking the walk” can we really expect for them to get it? If they see us drinking,drugging, and partying everynight; bringing a different man or woman home every week; not working or not trying to work or not going to school to better ourselves; making babies that we can’t or aren’t taking care of…what should we expect from them as young adults? Yes, we always want our children to be better than us and do better for themselves than we have…but we have to give them a positive starting point.

I also understand that you can give a child all the positive examples, support, encouragement, rules, structure, money, education, and family life in the world and they may still go out and do all the wrong things. But I’d rather be able to say and KNOW that I gave them each and every tool I could for them to be successful in life, instead of feeling guilty about the poor example I set as a parent. Our children have a hard enough road in front of them, without us HELPING them fail by not being responsible as their number one role models, or by living up to the stereotypes placed on us as being uneducated, lazy, welfare queens, thugs, and deadbeats. Make sure you give your child a chance to be part of the growth of our culture. 🙂

Mo Moment: Teaching Kids About The Responsibility Of Being Part Of A Team

Lastnight, I taught awesome son a lesson in responsibility and good sportsmanship. During football practice on Monday night he was injured. Nothing major, just a deep bruise in his pelvis which took us to the ER and left him with a golf ball sized knot in his pelvic area (which is going down now)…but serious enough for the doctor to want him to sit out for the rest of the week.

His team had a game lastnight and although he couldn’t play, I told him that he had to still show up and support his team. It was torture for him to sit on the sidelines and watch his team score and make plays without him. It was the first time he’d ever missed a game, but let me be clear…my intention was not to torture him. My reasoning was to teach him that being part of a team comes with a responsibility to be there and support your teammates in any way you can, to show that you are proud to be a part of the team. And although he had a hard time not being a part of the on-field action, I think he got it.

His teammates were excited to see him. Myself and a few other parents explained to him what a great example he was setting for the other players by coming out to support them…even helping out with water and giving his teammates pats on the back, and encouraging words. The best part was that he didn’t go out there with an attitude (can’t say the same for the ride in the car), but instead he supported his team enthusiastically! I’m so proud of him. 🙂

Morning Mo-tivation

Do not waste your energy and thoughts on what coulda, shoulda, woulda been…life is about experience and growth. If it didn’t work out, it wasn’t supposed to because something greater is in store. Sometimes we should be thankful for the blessings that we DON’T receive.–read that again and process it. Have an awesome M-powering day! <3–Monique

Today In Black History: August 29th

Today in Black history…in 1957, Congress passed the Civil Rights Act of 1957. The bill established a civil rights commission and a civil rights division in the Justice Department. It also gave the Justice Department authority to seek injunctions against voting rights infractions.


Today in the year 1958, the King of Pop, Michael Jackson was born. R.I.P to the greatest entertainer that ever lived.

Today in the year 1962, Mal Goode became the first African-American news commentator.