What Are You Looking At?

When you look in the mirror…who are you looking at? Who’s making up your face? Are you proud of her, ashamed of her, inspired by her, disgusted by her? Who are you REALLY setting your eyes on? When you look yourSELF in the face, that is exactly what you should be looking at and paying attention to…your-SELF. I’m not talking about your eyes, your skin-tone, your hair, your weight, or any physical attribute…I’m talking about your true self. Look at what you’ve achieved, what you’ve overcome, what you’ve had to fight for to get to that chick you have your eyes glued to in the mirror. Look at the things about you that make you unique from any other woman. Look at your blessings, look at your goals, look at you. Don’t focus on your imperfections…we’re all flawed in some way, so that doesn’t make you special.

What makes you special is that you are able to see through your own flaws, physical or otherwise, and know that there is still something about you that deserves to be blessed in life. Nobody in this world has to believe in you, love you, value you, or trust you more than you need to do all those things for yourself. You can’t get down on yourself because of someone else’s actions or words. Can you see those people when you look in the mirror? Or do you only see yourSELF? Are the ones who hurt you, taunted you, disrespected you, or did you any harm standing in the mirror with you? Didn’t think so. So the next time you look in the mirror ask yourself, “What are you looking at?” p.s.– it’s ok to answer yourself too in this situation 🙂

When The Sky Falls…

One thing we all have to realize when it comes to living our lives is that, sometimes the sky is going to fall on us; the ground is going to drop from beneath us and we will have to experience our worlds being turned upside down and inside out at several points in our lives. The next thing we must realize and always remember is…it’s ok. To make any type of progression in life some things are going to have to shift from time to time, whether you plan and prepare for them to or not, whether you’re ready for them to or not. Sometimes life just takes it upon it’s own powerful self to make the necessary adjustments for you, and sometimes the very situations and changes that we think are some sort of punishment or curse…actually turn out to be the blessings that we need in order to move forward.

The problems we encounter as we move through life are not actually the important part of who we are or who we may later become. The important part is how we carry ourselves through our trials, personal storms, and everyday dilemmas; how we hold on to ourselves as men and women when we are being beaten down and “tried” by our troubles. Your attitude is critical to overcoming. You must show up for your storm wearing the face of grace, strength, survival, and the faith that your hard times are not where you intend to dwell. You must believe that you are just passing through to pick up a few things…some wisdom, some courage, some strength, some motivation. Be arrogant enough to say that this sad pathetic place you’re in, isn’t good enough for you.

Nothing that happens to us in life is put in place to curse us. Unwelcome events, people, and situations are put before us to make us work to become better versions of ourselves, and to teach us to be doers as well as just thinkers. There is always a way “over”…but what we have to remember is that most of the time we can’t get there without first going “through”.  Read this again…process it…and come back to it anytime you feel like the sky is falling.